Cathy Cosentino, Esq., LMFT
Relationship Therapy and
Wellness Retreats
Kevin Bacon was asked how his relationship remained so successful. He replied, “Clean fighting and dirty sex”
Relationship Struggles
All relationships hit turbulent water now and then. Sometimes it’s a failure to communicate, brutal conflict that does not come to a resolution but remains swept under the rug-until the next argument. Other couples have neglected themselves and each other, their relationship lost priority status and now there is a price to pay. Loss of connection, little or no intimacy, feeling taken for granted, avoiding conflict lead couples to grow distant. It’s lonely. What was once a romantic and exciting connection has devolved into roommate status. Not addressing these issues doesn’t mean they will go away. Instead, your relationship changes and dissatisfaction sets in.
Tension that everyone feels…
These relationships experience high levels of tension, noticeable to you and your partner as well as anyone else living in your home. Walls are built-not around the relationship but between the couple.
You have the power to choose.
Now you have to choose whether to cut away the anchor and give your relationship a chance to survive or maintain the status quo.
Relationship survival means attending sessions geared toward creating connection, ensuring clear and safe communication, increasing positive moments for the couple, and increasing intimacy.
Schedule a call
If you are seeking to repair, rejuvenate, regain connection, schedule a call or a session.
What about Infidelity?
You have felt the blow of betrayal, and your world is upside down. Never was this expected. All the lies, gaslighting, feeling crazy-how can I ever trust this person again-let alone like him or her. How can he do this to me? How can she do this to me? Was it all a lie and what do I believe now?
The greatest of sucker punches, but you wish to stay..
It is the greatest of sucker punches. If you share this event with your friends and relatives they may tell you,” Get out while you can, you deserve better, once a cheater always a cheater, have some self-respect and leave, etc”. In the moment you may want to take that ride. Toss your partner out and show him or her the consequences of their behavior, what they have lost.
Yet, your heart wants to hold on. You have been together for so long, there was a lot of good in the relationship, you have children, joint finances, a home together, and years of memories and a future you were expecting to spend with your partner.
What does the future hold without your partner?
It is important to truly contemplate what the future holds if the decision to separate or divorce is made. There is time for this, but there is also time to contemplate, breathe and put it in perspective. Tune out the negative voices of family and friends, they are not in your shoes.
Taking a chance to give a second chance
It is not stupidity or foolishness to try to save your relationship. After all, you did vow, “for better or worse”. This moment is the ultimate test of whether the relationship can survive-and most marriages suffering from the betrayal of infidelity do!
What we can do together to make things better, to heal.
Couples learn to heal and grow. Using a three-step process which includes full disclosure regarding the affair-knowing the truth, the whole truth, addressing underlying problems of the relationship-although a difficult relationship never justifies betrayal, these issues need to be addressed in order to create a healthier relationship than what was; and creating a mutually desired future the couple can grow closer despite the betrayal.
Schedule a call
Trauma
Pain comes in so many different packages. The messages we receive as a child, whether intentionally or not, hurt just as much. What we hear as a child we accept as truths. Our adult brain may or may not have challenged the belief. However, even when we are able to recognize the untruth in those messages, the feelings and emotions tied to that memory are hard to break.
Working with members of the military and first responders
Working with members of the military and first responders it is clear that seeking help from trauma is not a priority. Messages from superior officers, the potential blemish on one’s record and the attitude of mental toughness all impact whether seeking help addressing trauma is attained. Many rely on their brothers in the military to talk to about mutual experiences-who else gets it better? However, talking alone won’t end the symptoms that trauma brings.
Help me, help my family.
Getting help for trauma of any sort have benefits not only to you, as the trauma survivor, but to your partner, family and other relationships. You are returned to the full you. We work to tear down that wall between you and the world.
What we will do to release that trauma
Using trauma techniques that help you release the trauma from your mind and body you can free yourself of childhood trauma, relationship trauma and other traumas. Techniques such as EMDR and prolonged exposure therapy may help you find the peace you have been searching for.
Fee: $185 per 60 mins. Forms of payment:
Credit Card
Cash
Kevin Bacon was asked how his relationship remained so successful. He replied, “Clean fighting and dirty sex”
Relationship Struggles
All relationships hit turbulent water now and then. Sometimes it’s a failure to communicate, brutal conflict that does not come to a resolution but remains swept under the rug-until the next argument. Other couples have neglected themselves and each other, their relationship lost priority status and now there is a price to pay. Loss of connection, little or no intimacy, feeling taken for granted, avoiding conflict lead couples to grow distant. It’s lonely. What was once a romantic and exciting connection has devolved into roommate status. Not addressing these issues doesn’t mean they will go away. Instead, your relationship changes and dissatisfaction sets in.
Tension that everyone feels…
These relationships experience high levels of tension, noticeable to you and your partner as well as anyone else living in your home. Walls are built-not around the relationship but between the couple.
You have the power to choose.
Now you have to choose whether to cut away the anchor and give your relationship a chance to survive or maintain the status quo.
Relationship survival means attending sessions geared toward creating connection, ensuring clear and safe communication, increasing positive moments for the couple, and increasing intimacy.
Schedule a call
If you are seeking to repair, rejuvenate, regain connection, schedule a call or a session.
What about Infidelity?
You have felt the blow of betrayal, and your world is upside down. Never was this expected. All the lies, gaslighting, feeling crazy-how can I ever trust this person again-let alone like him or her. How can he do this to me? How can she do this to me? Was it all a lie and what do I believe now?
The greatest of sucker punches, but you wish to stay..
It is the greatest of sucker punches. If you share this event with your friends and relatives they may tell you,” Get out while you can, you deserve better, once a cheater always a cheater, have some self-respect and leave, etc”. In the moment you may want to take that ride. Toss your partner out and show him or her the consequences of their behavior, what they have lost.
Yet, your heart wants to hold on. You have been together for so long, there was a lot of good in the relationship, you have children, joint finances, a home together, and years of memories and a future you were expecting to spend with your partner.
What does the future hold without your partner?
It is important to truly contemplate what the future holds if the decision to separate or divorce is made. There is time for this, but there is also time to contemplate, breathe and put it in perspective. Tune out the negative voices of family and friends, they are not in your shoes.
Taking a chance to give a second chance
It is not stupidity or foolishness to try to save your relationship. After all, you did vow, “for better or worse”. This moment is the ultimate test of whether the relationship can survive-and most marriages suffering from the betrayal of infidelity do!
What we can do together to make things better, to heal.
Couples learn to heal and grow. Using a three-step process which includes full disclosure regarding the affair-knowing the truth, the whole truth, addressing underlying problems of the relationship-although a difficult relationship never justifies betrayal, these issues need to be addressed in order to create a healthier relationship than what was; and creating a mutually desired future the couple can grow closer despite the betrayal.
Schedule a call
Trauma
Pain comes in so many different packages. The messages we receive as a child, whether intentionally or not, hurt just as much. What we hear as a child we accept as truths. Our adult brain may or may not have challenged the belief. However, even when we are able to recognize the untruth in those messages, the feelings and emotions tied to that memory are hard to break.
Working with members of the military and first responders
Working with members of the military and first responders it is clear that seeking help from trauma is not a priority. Messages from superior officers, the potential blemish on one’s record and the attitude of mental toughness all impact whether seeking help addressing trauma is attained. Many rely on their brothers in the military to talk to about mutual experiences-who else gets it better? However, talking alone won’t end the symptoms that trauma brings.
Help me, help my family.
Getting help for trauma of any sort have benefits not only to you, as the trauma survivor, but to your partner, family and other relationships. You are returned to the full you. We work to tear down that wall between you and the world.
What we will do to release that trauma
Using trauma techniques that help you release the trauma from your mind and body you can free yourself of childhood trauma, relationship trauma and other traumas. Techniques such as EMDR and prolonged exposure therapy may help you find the peace you have been searching for.
Fee: $185 per 60 mins. Forms of payment:
Credit Card
Cash
